A word about energy.
What depletes your energy and what fills up your tank is completely unique to you. There is simply no point in comparing your energy levels to other people’s. They are not you, you are not them.
If you are required at some event, be alert to how this effects you: the first time you leave this event (be it a work commitment, a family gathering or even lunch with friends) exhausted, wired or discombobulated, that’s the start of the learning.
Each time you learn what your body and soul can cope with. Listen carefully.
The next step is to understand what you need afterwards to bring yourself back into energetic balance: a treat, a day in bed, the chance to decompress over drinks with friends. You know your thing (I hope. If not, start trying things out. You need to know what works). Talk if you want to talk, escape to solitude if that’s what you need, look at beautiful things, be alone in a crowd.
It is simply no good to carry on failing to manage and maintain your energy because you can’t find a way to give yourself what you need. You are a grown up and you don’t need anybody’s permission to look after yourself the way you know you need looking after.
Please don’t fall into the (ego) trap of thinking that everybody needs you to turn up, be there, sort things out. The world would much prefer you to be a healthy, content, generous human, than a worn out husk.
Sarah x